It’s wedding season. With 1 family member and 2 friends getting married, Love is in the air and Showers are being planned.
In my premarital counseling over 29 years ago, the pastor asked, “Have you decided who is going to pay the bills and who is going to clean the toilets? In my naivety, I thought, “We will share all these responsibilities!”
Thank goodness our Pastor recognized that we needed more counseling and direction in all things marriage related. We took the personality tests, read the books he recommended, and met faithfully for 6 weeks. I’m so grateful! We settled on Dusty taking care of the finances and I would clean. This was a good agreement!
So what is the best advice for new married couples? Is it to go to Marriage Counseling? Is it to know one another’s personality? Is it read all the books? Is it to talk about all the potential problems that will come your way? Yes! Talk about all of it!
Unsaid expectations are definitely a thorn in a marriage’s side. Open Communication is Key in a marriage.
However ~ of all the words of advice I could write about marriage to a new couple, there are 2 words that will be the most important.
Be Nice! ~ Even on the days you don’t want to.
I like these little cards that allow guests to give their best marriage words of wisdom. The couple can look back at these in years to come. They’ll need these little reminders from the people they know and love.
After they’ve worn off the “new”, after the honeymoon…when real life, real work, real bills, real heartache and real fears arise, they’ll need one another in these tender moments to just Be Nice.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 – Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
So when you’re giving out your best advice this wedding season, or if you just woke up beside your Soul Mate, remember…Be Nice!
Isn’t that what Jesus does for us every day? Despite our failings and mistakes, He’s so nice! He forgives and Keeps on loving us. He doesn’t yell at us. He doesn’t hold it over us. He just keeps moving forward. Thank You Jesus!
So Carrie On friends and Stay High on Him who has shown us great Love by living, dying, and rising for you and me. May we be Jesus to our Spouse today and every day. Colossians 3
And Remember, Jesus loves you! ✝️🙏🏻
Stay High 