I just laugh when I hear my boys say this to me.
It’s usually when I call them in for a “Heart to heart ❤️ ” talk. They’re preteens and teenagers now, so the topics are getting less comfortable and more serious.
Our world is complicated and raising them to know truth is important.
They have no idea what they’re saying to me when they say…”Don’t be “That” mom”…
If they only knew how they’ve rocked my world…and how many times I’ve wanted to say, “Don’t be THAT kid…”
How about when they were born….
Don’t be “That” mom that reads every parenting book before your baby was born…..only to realize once he’s born that the authors of those books never met your baby. So I did what was best for my baby at the time. Because we’re all created different with unique needs. Gods good like that.
Don’t be “That” mom that breast fed for a whole year without bottle feeding him ….for 3 boys….because he wouldn’t take a bottle. Lord knows I wish he would have taken a bottle sometimes. God’s got a plan, and you won’t always need me every few hours.
Don’t be “That” mom that reads and talks to your baby (before he can even utter a word) because you want him to know your voice and see all of the greatness around him. God has so much to share with you, I’m just helping you get a head start.
Don’t be “That” mom that sings to her baby …even though your voice is not angelic. Singing to him off key is one of the only things that calms him down…for the first year of his life at least. Because that crackling voice singing “Jesus LOVES You” keeps him calm and quiet on the 3 hour ride home. I had to sing it 1000s of times to make you calm. God says to make a joyful noise to Him. God gave me this voice, so I’m going to use it.
Don’t be “That” mom that keeps a strict bedtime routine because it’s what helps you sleep at night. If we Bathe, brush, read, sing, pray….and in that order…our nights just go better. Lord knows skipping a step would be drastic. I can’t tell you how many times I prayed, “God help him sleep.”
Don’t be “That” mom that takes him to every play date she can find just to get some “mom” time and adult conversation in. And, then, gets kicked out because you want to wrestle every kid in there. I can’t help it if dad thinks wrestling with you is fun. So you think it’s a normal thing to physically challenge every boy and girl there. God made you extra physical for a reason. I’m praying you’ll use all that physical energy to glorify him one day.
Don’t be “That” mom that used to carry a Pampered Chef Skinny scraper in the car door and in her purse when y’all were little just in case a spanking is needed while we’re out. You 2 used to fight like cats and dogs everywhere we went. In fact, other moms asked to borrow it. I can’t help it that you want deny a need for boundaries. God says to “Spare the rod is to spoil the child.” Lord knows I don’t want a spoiled child.
Don’t be “That” mom that keeps a first aid kit in the car and a mini kit in her purse. Every time a need arrives, being prepared is what this mom does. Don’t hold it against me, it’s Gods gift to me to want to help you and your friends feel better. I pray you use your gifts to help others too one day.
Don’t be “That” mom that home schools. Well, we never would have if you wouldn’t have begged me not to drop you off every time I needed you to go to “Mother’s Day Out”, Preschool, or even your elementary school. It broke my heart every time you would cry and scream at the drop off. Or when you wouldn’t let go of my hand when I volunteered in your classroom. Lord knows we both needed a break from one another. But I felt the Lord leading me to teach you. It was a sacrifice I was willing to make because you asked me over and over to stay home. It was sweet times and I’ll cherish those days with you. I hope you too follow the Lords leading in your life, even when it’s hard.
Don’t be “That” mom That…
Whatever God has placed on your heart to do as a mom is exactly what is right for you and your children at the time.
All moms are different. As my dad used to say, “It’s what make the world go around. Thank goodness we aren’t all the same. Now wouldn’t that be boring.”
And whenever you doubt your choices as a mom, and your head says “Don’t be that mom.”…. just remember that they are “That” kid that God made for you at this time.
Follow your instincts and remember…your doing a great job! ….A thankless, hard, demanding, job that may never be truly rewarded until we get to Heaven.
So Be THAT mom that leans in close to Jesus. Be THAT mom that makes sacrifices and smiles inside knowing that you and your baby are fearfully and wonderfully made for each other. No one can take that away from you.
I don’t know why I’m writing this at midnight on a Sunday night. But God knows.
Blessings to all you moms. Stay High and Carry On. And remember…Jesus Loves you! ❤️